You should “Mind” your Mind
We have 50-70,000 thoughts per day which is roughly 35-48 thoughts per minute
With that in mind (excuse the pun) can you imagine what you are doing to yourself and well-being when you imagine how many of those thoughts are negative, stressful, full of fear, worrisome or self-bashing?
As you can imagine this might be a lot, it has to be at least over 1,000 even for the most positive thinkers if we have over 50,000 thoughts per day.
What would happen if you spent one day counting each thought in two categories, negative or positive? If you actually made it your mission for the day to focus on almost everything you were thinking as much as you possibly can for one whole day?
I think it would be a huge shock to most people wouldn’t it!
Life gets busy and we tend not to think of these things and brush them aside to deal with a matter at hand but it is the most important thing you could possibly think of and take action with if you want to live the life you were meant to live.
So why would we do this to ourselves, it doesn’t make sense does it? A lot of people put so much emphasis on the bad things in life and just dwell way too long on them to the point where it is a routine to stress, gossip, bitch, create drama, involve ourselves in drama, put ourselves down, put others down because of how we feel inside and just really torment ourselves.
Anyone can change this at any point. It only takes focus to realize our thinking pattern and to change our train of thought. We are conditioned over the years by the people we surround ourselves with, circumstance that we let take over our future and anything really that we have repeated over and over. This does take time to change as our brain has wired ourselves into this routine and certain pattern of thinking so how do we change that?
START. That’s it plain and simple, just start! Once you start to be aware of how you think about yourself and everything else in life you will start to notice that there are always improvements to be made.
Lets look at some facts before we move onto some examples of how we are not kind to our mind.
99% of the things we worry about never happen.
Can you remember what you were worrying about this time last year? Everyone I asked said no, so why worry about something that might never happen and something that you will not even remember in a month let alone a year?
Fear – False Evidence Appearing Real. The only reason we were made to feel fear is when you are in actual danger eg: When caveman/cavewomen are about to be eaten by a Lion. Your fear was meant for kicking in, in extremely dangerous situations to give you a warning for danger, not what we have been reduced to over time.
Stress is the number one cause for disease, disease is dis-ease. Think of how many medical conditions are caused by stress and brought on by overthinking bad about everything. Its not fair on you and its not fair on the people you love who worry about you if you are unwell. Do not do it to yourself. Some things granted are very hard not to stress about but do not stress the small things.
You are putting your health at risk when you over-stress about everything but you can reduce this by thinking more positively and being aware of much you stress and as a result you will live a much healthier & happier lifestyle.
Putting yourself down does not serve you, in fact it increases your insecurities and self-hatred which is the worst thing you can do to yourself. Why put yourself down when you can build yourself up.
Putting others down is nothing to do with others, its not their fault, they are not to blame, they are human too and by putting them down it is quite obvious that you are either taking your struggles out on them or envious in a way you are probably not even aware of.
Remember worry & stress stem from fear, which creates negative thoughts which then leads to enhanced fear, panic and anxiety but you can chance this easily and create habits overtime that will serve you well for life.
To be “Mind” your mind all you need to do is… Start
Start appreciating what you do have: Family, Friends, A home, Food on the table, this alone makes you richer than most of the world. When you wake up just take 5 minutes to take in what you actually DO have. A cosy bed, heat, comfortable clothes to sleep in, a roof over your head, people who love you and would literally do anything for you, maybe a pet who adores you, a partner you love, kids that look up to you and hang on your every word as gospel … the list goes on and on and on. Do this before you go to sleep and be thankful for the good that happened that day and you will see a big change! Why put so much thought into what you do not have, just aim for it and do not let it make you unhappy.
Start to try to reduce your stress levels so life runs smoother: Get organised, get on top of things, take the time to do this, no matter how much you think you do not have the time to get organised you have the same amount of time as Einstein and all the greats. You can spare one hour to sit down and organise your week and this will result in you having more free time because you are organised. Keep this up and you will have even MORE TIME. To make this a habit do it for 30 days straight and it will be part of your routine. For all other stresses all you can do is be aware of when you are giving yourself a hardtime and take it down a notch or ten and over time you will always be aware of how worked up you are getting. Do not stress over things you cannot change, it is wasted energy and you stressing about it will not change the outcome.
If you are always complaining about being broke do up a budget: This will free up money you did not even know you had. In our generation we spend well beyond our means. We spend money we do not have therefore, we end up trying to play catch up all the time and end up in debt. Break this cycle, you will be delighted you did it. If you can think of an extra way to earn more money than DO IT! Life is too short for, “I will sometime”. The timing will never be right or perfect just START!
If you do not like something change it: I cannot stress this enough, if you do not like something change it. If you hate your job start pursuing a career that will make you happy as you spend most of your life in work so if you hate it, you hate half your life. If you hate a relationship you are in, get out of it! If you hate the way certain people treat you, do not spend time with them. If you hate your body then start to work on it. All of these things, as patronizing as they may sound are totally attainable and might feel hard to do at first but you will reap the benefits right away and immediately become happier. Nothing in life worth having ever came easy. So do not stay stuck just because its easy you will regret it for the rest of life.
In addition and when you are ready, start practicing “The Law of Attraction” http://addictedtoeverything.com/inspirational/so-what-is-the-law-of-attraction/ . In short, The LOA is the idea that like attracts like, what we think about we bring about. This will change your life forever.
I hope you found this post helpful and I really hope you can Start to try out these ideas because I know with 110% certainty it will have a huge impact on your life and well-being. Please drop A.T.E an email and let us know how you are getting on. Best of luck!
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